“Sometimes in life, we may have to experience solitude, the baseless accusations of people, the betrayal and misunderstanding of trusted and loyal ones, the great judgments and suggestions of ‘they that know better’, and a moment of a state of double mindedness. But those are also for good, for they are the very things that shape and prepare our mind, body and spirit to face the world and to accomplish our mission with great zeal, tenacity and distinctiveness.” ―Ernest Agyemang Yeboah
*In light of an accusation/thought, it feels appropriate to share this quote.
If I speak about someone with respect and enthusiasm, please know that it is because I am being respectful and enthusiastic, and am probably stunned that someone is actually treating me well in some capacity, but it is NOT because I have unprofessional or unrealistic feelings for them.
I’ve discussed relationships I’ve been in and am currently in, and I think my readers would know if I was A) Cheating on someone or B) Having an affair. We all have tells. I am proud to say I have done neither in my life. However, if you know me long enough, or well enough, to question such a thing, then I feel I have the right to turn around and say “Are you fucking kidding me?!” That isn’t something you laugh about with me; it’s a serious accusation. It’s one I will never respond kindly to. I may be single (as in, not married), but that does not mean I feel anyone else’s husband is “up for grabs”. I don’t. It doesn’t matter what the capacity is; if I know a man and he is in a relationship, he is 100% OFF LIMITS. He can be a great friend who I respect and trust, he can be anyone, really, but that does not mean I’m going to hit on him, or that I’d allow him to hit on me. That I even feel I have to clarify this means I am well and truly upset.
So to anyone who has every wondered; your boyfriends and husbands are 100% safe in my presence. In fact, they might as well be eunuchs as far as I’m concerned.*
“We fear things because we value them. We fear losing people because we love them. We fear dying because we value being alive. Don’t wish you didn’t fear anything. All that would mean is that you didn’t feel anything.” –Cassandra Clare, Lord of Shadows
“A generous heart is always open, always ready to receive our going and coming. In the midst of such love, we need never fear abandonment. This is the most precious gift true love offers – the experience of knowing we always belong.” ―Bell Hooks
This is true. And it reminds me of the close relationships in my life.